Meditation Niceness

Steen Millinder

Meditation Niceness

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As the name implies this is all about meditation.
Do you want to get more into meditation? Or reawaken your former meditation practice?

Here is a good start!

Do you want to use meditation to de-stress? Or become more focused and act with more intent and awareness? Or go all in in the persuit of the deep states like Jhana?

Then this is for you!

No matter what the aspiration/intention might be one of the results will most likely be that you discover more about yourself <3

Scome join us for an hour of meditation, talking(otherwise I will do the talking) and togetherness.

The structure will be such that the first 10 minutes I will rant a bit about meditation I general, types, kinds and what have you.
Followed by 10 minutes of guided meditation, this might be loving-kindness, body scan, emotional or whatever seems appropriate.
After this we will talk for about 10 minutes(those who want) on how it went and what we felt. 
Then I will rant a bit on meditation technique, and we will do a 10-minute breath-meditation and finish it with a short discussion on how it felt.

To begin with it will be every Tuesday from 1930 – 2030, @ Bioteket, if there is interest for more a second weekly meditation event might be set up depending on the demand.

Here are some closing smarty-pants-words:

The before is gone and soon might never come, there is only now, every now has its I and each is unique. So don’t take shit personally, it will all pass, relax, smile, experience the now and be kind.

Ok I was lying because here are some more…

Meditation in a really squeezed nutshell for those who want to know a bit more:

When having noticed that the intention to keep attention on something previously agreed upon is gone, thank this part that lets one reawaken to the present. Relax, you are actually meditating! Smile! And gently bring back attention… yes that simple, let’s see how easy it is to maintain.

The purpose of meditation in an equally tight nutshell:

Subdue the reactive and doing part of the mind to give room for the perceiving knowing part of the mind(heart) then let go of tension and efforting/craving(craving is the I-like-it/I-don’t-like-it part of the mind) and stay still in the present not doing or reacting(effortless mindfulness).
Mindfulness is non-judgmental experience of the present. Mindfulness without aversion/craving with a non-agitated mind is peace.
Accept what is as it is and enjoy it(joy and equanimity). This leads to more wholesome(long-term-niceness stuff) actions in our life.

For those eager for more info(and its totally fair that you had enough already)…

How I meditate in a coco-nut-shell:
Assuming I’m sitting I sit as straight is I can in a fashion so that I can maintain the position for as long as needed. I fidget around until it feels symmetrical and pleasant, I often imagine the top of my head being as high towards the sky as possible.
I position my tongue up to the roof of my mouth and the tip just touching my front teeth and lightly pinch it with my bottom teeth(can’t clench my jaw now). This helps me remember that I’m meditating and when I bring my attention back to the meditation, I position my tongue back to this position. It’s kind of a cue for me that I’m going back to meditating.
Sometimes if feeling less than well I take between 3 and 10 breaths where I draw air in deeply imagining it going in through my solar plexus. I hold it for a short while, imagining concentrating all unsatisfactoriness/unease/hurt in the solar plexus region and expel it through my mouth or the top of my head slightly forcefully. 
When this is done, I decide on what to meditate on(let’s say breath) I attempt to give my subconsciousness an easy instruction set and repeat it 3 times. For example: I want to watch my breath and be quick to discover when i don’t, when I discover that I have forgotten it I want to have a laugh about it. I really try and feel how it feels to follow my breath and how it feels to get distracted and then I “ask” my subconsciousness “if” “we” can have a laugh about how crappy meditators we are(playfully), and when I get an emotional “yes” response, I say/feel thank you/gratitude.
I can always change my meditation object during a meditation but then I always go through these steps again, it’s basically just starting a new meditation.

So as already mentioned, when noticing mind-wandering(having forgotten what I was meditating on), I thank “myself” for that moment of awakening from a daydream.
Then I try and note what kind of distraction it was(for example planning, fantasizing about future scenarios, reminiscing about the past, or just thinking and so forth) to see how the process that led to it looked like and I try to understand it. “Understand it” is more than just noticing, it has a component of remembrance, to note the relevant/important parts of it as these are the insights that lead to wisdom(wisdom “just” being having enough insights for a statistical analysis to see patterns). I try to find any craving/(aversion being a craving for something else) in the distraction and understand it. I don’t spend time or attention on the thought or emotion itself, because I don’t want to feed it(empower my distractions), just the craving part and where it has its roots(insecurity, abandonment, fear(of what?), loneliness, mistrust, and so forth). I don’t look for events that might have led me to be it this way as this is too uncertain to work with for me.
Then I try and notice the feeling of tightness in my mind and/or body when in that state, and how it feels to let it go. There is importance in learning to let it go, to relax because my next step is to bring myself back to the present moment with a lighthearted mood(here I always smile/smirk a bit). What I do to aid this process is to remember that I’m actually meditating and not just talking/thinking about it!
So after having noticed the distraction, thanking me for the noticing(giving me the choice not to continue on this path), I shift my attention gently back to the meditation object again. I usually keep smiling for a while and keep it as pleasant as I can while staying mindful for as for as long as I can. I only stay aware of the meditation object to the extent needed to maintain mindfulness.
Though I “need” to stay relaxed and present, it is not the same as casual mindfulness = kind-of-mindful, alertness is the state to be in, and I try to remember that boredom is the lack of attention.
At times I periodically remind myself that there is a body, or there is breath or seeing or feeling or whatever my meditation object is.
When I forget my meditation object at some point(just a matter of time) I always try and remember that it’s a good thing! for it will also bring a new moment of awakening to the present! I am no longer in a daydream but in a mindful moment! Exactly what I aspire towards.
All this got easier and way more pleasant with less preference(what I would like to happen) and more practice(duh..).
I attempt to stay with the moment in the moment! and not lean into the next moment(for example watching the in-breath in order to get to the out-breath), and just be here now!  

Why do I even meditate at all?:

My meditation practice started with stress and anxiety leading to depression leading to addiction(and here meditation was/is distilled gold!).
With time I noticed(yes that word again!) it had far more potential than that alone. I started reading about it and stumbled upon Buddhism(I do not consider myself Buddhist) and they sure do have some tight manuals on how to proceed(for example the Satipatthana Sutta).

So here I will describe how I at the time of writing perceive what the important parts of Buddhist conduct and training of the mind/soul are.

Here is the 8-fold path(lifestyle guidelines) with some extras in a pretty tight nutshell:
1) Right View(Right Understanding / Right Perspective).
To get to the right view of the world, one must first understand and follow the Four (Noble) Truths:
T1… All existence often includes suffering’, ‘anguish’, ‘pain’, and/or ‘unsatisfactoriness’.
T2… The cause of this is craving, in particular it is our tendency to grasp at things (or alternatively to push them away) and this places us fundamentally at odds with the way life really is.
T3… The cessation of this comes with the cessation of craving. As we are the ultimate cause of our difficulties, we are also the solution. We cannot change the things that happen to us, but we can change our responses.
T4… There is an (8-fold)path that leads from this, and is ermm,,, this list.
Right View, along with Right Thought constitutes the path to Wisdom.
2) Right Thought(Right Resolve / Right Intention) in simple terms means to free oneself from having ill-will towards anyone or anything(making them/it ones enemy).
This can also be defined as, “Resolve in favor of renunciation of anything conflicting with what is mentioned in this list(s).
3) Right Speech is abstaining from:
-divisive speech
-abusive speech
-idle chatter
and any form of harmful or wrong speech.
Right Speech, along with Right Action and Right Living constitute the path to Virtue.
4) Right Action(Right Conduct). The five precepts of Right Action are to refrain from:
P1… destroying sentient beings and/or making them suffer.
P2… stealing.
P3… sexual misconduct.
P4… false speech.
P5… intoxicants which lead to heedlessness.
These can be summarized as, “Avoidance of actions that conflict with moral discipline”.
5) Right Living(Right Livelihood) means that one should only take a job or pursue a career in a field that does no harm sentient beings directly or indirectly.
6) Right Effort(Right Endeavor) is not the effort to make something particular happen. It is the effort to be aware and awake in each moment, the effort to overcome laziness and any of the 10 defilements (defilements are basically mental states that cloud the mind and manifest in unwholesome actions and include states of mind such as anxiety, fear, anger, jealousy, desire, depression, craving, aversion/grasping, etc.):
1…   greed
2…   hate
3…   delusion
4…   conceit
5…   wrong views
6…   doubt
7…   torpor
8…   restlessness
9…   shamelessness
10… recklessness
And the effort to make each activity of our day meditation(acting with intent and self-awareness). This concept is about pursuing wholesome things that promote a good conscience.
Another definition: Cultivation of what is wholesome and avoidance of what is unwholesome. (Unwholesome thoughts and actions are the ones that are taken personally and lead to identification, “this is me or who I am” and/or are in conflict with anything else mentioned in this list(s)).
Right Effort, along with Right Mindfulness and Right Concentration constitute the path to ermm niceness and stuff. (niceness is basically mindfulness without aversion or grasping with a non-agitated mind, and mindfulness is the non-judgmental/attached observation of the present).
7) Right Mindfulness(Right memory) is about remaining focused on / mindful of one’s body, feelings, mind and mental qualities. It’s also about being ardent, aware, and mindful, and supposes that one has already put aside worldly desire(sugar, cocain, pornography and so forth) and aversion.
The mind is deliberately kept at the level of bare attention and trained(through meditation) to remain in the present, open, quiet, and alert, contemplating the present events.
Another definition: Ongoing mindfulness of body, feelings, thinking, and all objects of the mind.
Right Concentration(is niceness) has to do with leaving behind sensuality(yes), unwholesome states, as well as pleasure and pain(these are linked, bodily-pleasure and spiritual-joy are not the same). It is a complex idea but once one has achieved the shedding of worldly sensation one can truly concentrate and find a higher level of awareness.
Another definition: Concentration of mind that finds its highpoint in the four absorptions. these are the aforementioned Jhana’s and the meditation method described here leads to these with enough practice.

If you are still here well done!! Now go meditate! and revisit this text after some practice, you will likely find that some parts make more/different sense than the first time you read it, the 5 hindrances are also very valuable to look into but this text has to have an end <3


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16-08-2022 - 07:30 PM to
25-11-2022 - 08:30 PM


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